I have never thought that I am a strict mommy, or a mean mommy,
but as I consider what my kids have been saying lately,
I'm thinking more and more that I'm no fun at all:
* After blatantly disobeying and having the countdown from 3, I spanked Korben's bum. He turns to me and says (with huge alligator tears and a shaky voice mind you), "Mommy, that's mean". Gosh it almost broke my heart!
* Logan has a habit of terrorizing any room he is left in for over 2 seconds. Apparently, I have banned him from rooms more than once, because when I walk into a room and he is doing something he shouldn't he will say to me, "get out" and run into a different room. Also, if he is headed for something he shouldn't touch, all I have to do is say his name and he will say, "don't touch". Add that to the fact that Korben has taken it upon himself to help me out and is constantly yelling, "Logan, get down!" and I'm pretty sure the poor kid only ever hears three phrases come out of my mouth.
* We had the missionaries over for dinner and Korben thought our bamboo place mats were a pretty cool toy. Over the next few days he would pull them out and play with them and we would tell him to stop. On one particular day, he pulled one out just as his Daddy got home and before Mike could even say hello, Korben ran up to him and said most matter-of-factly, "Daddy, this is not a toy." I guess he was getting it out before Mike had a chance to say it.
* We had some friends over and Korben was acting up. Mike told him if he didn't stop he would have to go to his room. Korben pointed his finger at Mike and in the sternest voice a 4 year old can muster said, "Stop it! Do you understand me?!"
What does this say about me?! Am I really such a dictator? Why is it that my kids only remember those things?? Why not the "I love yous" and the "you're cutes" and the "you're funnys"?? Or the hugs, and the kisses and the laughter?? Is this just my lot in life - to only be remembered for the times I'm not a stellar parent? >SIGH<
* After blatantly disobeying and having the countdown from 3, I spanked Korben's bum. He turns to me and says (with huge alligator tears and a shaky voice mind you), "Mommy, that's mean". Gosh it almost broke my heart!
* Logan has a habit of terrorizing any room he is left in for over 2 seconds. Apparently, I have banned him from rooms more than once, because when I walk into a room and he is doing something he shouldn't he will say to me, "get out" and run into a different room. Also, if he is headed for something he shouldn't touch, all I have to do is say his name and he will say, "don't touch". Add that to the fact that Korben has taken it upon himself to help me out and is constantly yelling, "Logan, get down!" and I'm pretty sure the poor kid only ever hears three phrases come out of my mouth.
* We had the missionaries over for dinner and Korben thought our bamboo place mats were a pretty cool toy. Over the next few days he would pull them out and play with them and we would tell him to stop. On one particular day, he pulled one out just as his Daddy got home and before Mike could even say hello, Korben ran up to him and said most matter-of-factly, "Daddy, this is not a toy." I guess he was getting it out before Mike had a chance to say it.
* We had some friends over and Korben was acting up. Mike told him if he didn't stop he would have to go to his room. Korben pointed his finger at Mike and in the sternest voice a 4 year old can muster said, "Stop it! Do you understand me?!"
What does this say about me?! Am I really such a dictator? Why is it that my kids only remember those things?? Why not the "I love yous" and the "you're cutes" and the "you're funnys"?? Or the hugs, and the kisses and the laughter?? Is this just my lot in life - to only be remembered for the times I'm not a stellar parent? >SIGH<
6 comments:
haha! I think all little ones do this to their mom's. Claira frequently informs either Russ or I that she "doesn't like us anymore" when we come down on her. But, that is the "lot in life" of a parent in general.. you can't always be their best friend. The good news is that they still love you and feel loved by you and they know it somewhere deep down inside..even if their repeated phrasology doesn't reflect that notion ;)
Seriously, it's half-funny and half-devastating to hear your kids mimic you, isn't it?! I happen to know you're a great mom, though, so no worries. I think kids fixate on the things that they get in trouble for, and just take the love and hugs for granted, which is a good thing, I guess. They don't feel like it's unusual to be told they're loved, or cuddled, or read to. =)
you are a wonderful mommy and you have great children...kids just do through stages and pick up on the funniest things...you are doing great!
Aw. You're a good mommy, Kate! Sydney likes to tell us off for things all the time, she thinks she's the boss.
Just remember, parent now, friend later. :)
I so totally understand the guilt that comes from hearing your kids repeat the things you tell them. Ya. I'm no fun either.
So from one mom to another, you are completely normal.
Remember it's our job!
Thank you Kate for this post and I am glad to read other mom's comments. Reminds me that we have a purpose to our ways and that even though it's not fun at times, our kids will love to read it in their blog books of the time when.... you get it. :)
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